We all make choices everyday.
Debbie Ford, author of The Right Questions, says:
“Choice might just be our most precious gift”
In my work as a mindfulness-based therapist, I would have to agree. Much of what I talk about in session is around choice. Part of the work is shifting perspective from a place of choice-less-ness into choice-full-ness.
With that comes a great deal of responsibility. It is with a sense of choice-full-ness that one must own their actions completely.
When you own your choices, actions, and outcomes, there is little room for blame or other avoidance strategies.
You accept that you can make choices that support and affirm your being, or you can make choices that disempower and derail you.
You can make choices that enhance your vitality, or you can make choices that increase your suffering.
It’s really up to you.
Inevitably, some discomfort will arise when you are making decisions about matters that are close to your heart. And thats okay — it’s part of being human! Discomfort can be a sign that you are fully alive. It’s an indicator that you are getting out of your comfort zone and taking a risk.
Maybe you find yourself at an important life crossroads. Or maybe you are just trying to make decisions today that will improve your tomorrow.
Either way, I recommend asking yourself these questions anytime you are faced with a choice.
These questions are from Debbie Ford’s book, The Right Questions. You can use them to get clear on your motivations for making a certain choice, or you can use them to clarify if a certain choice will support your best interest (or not).
Here are the ten questions:
- Will this choice propel me toward an inspiring future, or will it keep me stuck in the past?
- Will this choice bring me long-term fulfillment or will it bring me short-term gratification?
- Am I standing in my power or am I trying to please another?
- Am I looking for what’s right or am I looking for what’s wrong?
- Will this choice add to my life force or will it rob me of my energy?
- Will I use this situation to grow and evolve or will I use it to beat myself up?
- Does this choice empower me or does it disempower me?
- Is this an act of self-love or is it an act of self-sabotage?
- Is this an act of faith or an act of fear?
- Am I choosing from my divinity or am I choosing from my humanity?
You can use any (or all) of these questions when faced with a choice. Some of the questions may apply to certain situations more than others, or some of the questions may not resonate with you at all.
My advice: use what works for you.
I personally find all of these questions to be powerful opportunities for reflection. I have also found that when I check my choices against these questions, I end up feeling more empowered and less uncertain. These questions help reduce my anxiety while propelling me toward what I really want.
I hope that these questions will serve you well as you work to build your ideal life. May they guide you to an inspiring future.
Still need help making some big life decisions? I can help! Whether you are thinking about a career move, ending a relationship, or making some big lifestyle changes, I am here for you.
Through the process of inquiry, we will get to the bottom of the matter and develop a strategy that will leave you feeling more confident in the decisions you make.